sofa kingdom

Oct 8 2012

god, mom and i: part 9

mom: and you'll know what i'll say about this.. right?
me: uh.. wait, what?
mom: that the reason you're unhappy is because you're trying to do the impossible- trying to fill the god-sized hole in your heart with anything else but god!
me: oh yeahh.. that's what you'd say.
(pause)
mom: so is it that you dont believe or...
me: it's a bunch of different things mom... but i guess what i have the hardest time doing is comparing the supreme being i can imagine to the christian god and coming up with more and more questions i'll ask him if it does turn out that you're right.
mom: ok... like??
me: why he chose to reveal himself to only one group of his creation and not the entire earth. why he has allowed the catholic church to wage wars in his name and condone internal sexual abuse from its priests. to explain why, if he has supreme control, to allow a fallible human (the pope) to be his voice on earth. and why he allows his voice to prohibit the mass distribution of prophylactics in africa and thereby wills that thousands upon thousands of newborn children enter this world with a fatal disease.
mom: ok.. well most of these are issues with PEOPLE, not god. humans are imperfect...
me: well obviously.
mom: so why are you putting all of it on god?
me: because of his grand scheme, mom. i don't get it. there's too much mystery for me to just believe it because it sorta makes sense. there's too much wrong with it for me not to be skeptical.

Feb 21 2011

i feel good.

i feel like i’ve got some self confidence for the first time in a while.

what does it mean when you aren’t timid in social situations but can’t stand being alone?

it means, among other things, that you are unhappy.

and its a cycle that ultimately needs to be broken.

i am responsible for my own happiness and well being- not for anybody else’s. and i, thereby, cant expect anybody else to provide me any sort of long lasting happiness.

i have to be the source of my own motivation. my willingness to get things done. my focus. my goals…. my happiness.

it’s all too easy for me to deflect personal issues in the name of ‘helping’ others. but in reality, its stunting their growth as much as it is mine.

i have this deep-seeded need to feel needed. its so easily fulfilled by trying my best to make the people i care about happier. but situational gratification is never a long-lasting solution. and it’s taken me a while to admit that.

you can only change yourself and how you react to things.

this is me trying to do that.

Oct 21 2010

Oct 1 2010

today

i am boarding a flight from houston to newark, new jersey. from there i will be going to visit my friend that goes to West Point™ Military Academy. we’ve been the best of friends ever since the fourth grade and this is the first time i am getting to see what his life has been like for the past three years.

its ridiculous how different people’s college experiences can be, right?

Sep 17 2010

i just created ANOTHER blog

now there are 4 that i have yet to start. oh creative procrastination, you are one thing i really need to work on.

Sep 15 2010

GPOYW

this is me at age 17.
i loved this picture.
but i haven’t seen it in a long while, so some weird remembering is going on.
trying to remember what i was like 5 years ago is a strange thing.

that’s all for now, folks.

Sep 9 2010

its amazing how quickly my day at work can go from ‘omg i get to internetz all day’ to ‘fuck this shit with a 12 inch’

Sep 2 2010

TIRAMISU!! ya, i made that for my gf. no biggie.

Aug 23 2010

rice rice baby

ok you guys, so im a fairly decent cook. i am known to be a little over zealous at times but more often than not my food turns out great. i dont cook for every single meal, i just do it when i feel like it. but no matter what, without fail, i will fuck up rice if i try to cook it. its either a goopy mush or halfway undercooked. i. do. not. get. it. so i just wanted to vent to the gods of the kitchen (they totally read my tumblr). anywho, im about to google stovetop rice cooking tips while i hide in the bathroom at my office. hopefully now that i have a nice phone/camera i can share my food successes here soo look forward to that. otherwise, not a post heavy day. sorry all, good game. be back tomorrow.